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Old 05-18-2012, 01:48 PM   #11
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I told my wife that when I get tired of boating, I was going to get an airplane!

26mph sounded my reasonible.
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Old 05-18-2012, 03:38 PM   #12
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Well, I'm speachless. I tried to write this reply several times. All I can say is, I can only imagine how difficult this is for you. However, I don't blame you one bit. I would do the same thing. I also wouldn't blame tha admiral either, I can sympathize and understand how she must feel. I too would want to distance myself from all thigns boating to avoid the reminder. I would hate to see a boat come between two people whether it were because you had one, or because you didn't. After all, boating to relax and fun. If it's neither of those things, then it's simply not worth it. If one person is not having a good time, then neither are having a good time.

I won't say goodbye, because I hope to at least see you here every now and then. I do wish you the best of luck and know you're making the right decision.
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Old 05-18-2012, 10:08 PM   #13
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To a boater that is life changing. I understand the fear factor of not wanting back on the boat, but I don't understand you needing to not visit the site anymore.
I can't imaging life with out a boat.
I almost thought it would happen back in September when we got the current boat (3000 SCR). We had just returned from our first outing in it and we were tieing up in the slip, my wif slipped backwards and hit her head on the boat in the next slip knocking her out. Someone screamed she's in the water and when I ran around to the other side she was unconscious floating about 1 foot under water in the fetal position, eyes closed.
I thought she was dead. I jumped in holding on to the boat and pier, wrapped my legs around her to get her above water while friends pulled her on the slip. That is the scariest thing I have ever been through or seen!
She ended up ok and we boated the next day, she is no longer allowed on the fingers.
I hope your wife will come back around, boating is a way of life, it's been in mine for over 40 years.
Good luck to you.
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Old 05-19-2012, 01:06 AM   #14
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thanks everyone for understanding....it's a real tough decision for me...I've grappled with it alot and if I can't get her to have fun..then as stated..it's not worth it......I'm sorry to have to end my boating career after being a navy brat,a submarine/destroyer designer for 17 yrs and a recreational boater for 12...maybe I'll get a bigger one or a motorhome ...not sure what we'll do....I do know that while we were taking our personal belongings off the boat...it was very difficult for me to have to do it.....just like pulling my own teeth out one by one....

Shrew..I know you'll take good care of the moc....don't cut my acct off just yet...I may stop in from time to time after I stop serious drinking and crying for the next few months.....
Plus you've been a really great mod helping me run the show......I'm sure you'll do fine with keeping it all going smoothly...

all my best too you guys and glenn..thank god your wife is ok..that would have been a terrible event......
your not far from my sister in Rowlette...

anyway....God bless all of you...stay safe...have fun.....toss one in my honor occasionally......

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Old 05-19-2012, 01:11 AM   #15
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thanks everyone for understanding....it's a real tough decision for me...I've grappled with it alot and if I can't get her to have fun..then as stated..it's not worth it......I'm sorry to have to end my boating career after being a navy brat,a submarine/destroyer designer for 17 yrs and a recreational boater for 12...maybe I'll get a bigger one or a motorhome ...not sure what we'll do....I do know that we while we were taking our personal belongings off the boat...it was very difficult for me to have to do it.....just like pulling my own teeth out one by one....

Shrew..I know you'll take good care of the moc....don't cut my acct off just yet...I may stop in from time to time after I stop serious drinking and crying for the next few months.....
Plus you've been a really great mod helping me run the show......I'm sure you'll do fine with keeping it all going smoothly...

all my best too you guys and glenn..thank god your wife is ok..that would have been a terrible event......
your not far from my sister in Rowlette...

anyway....God bless all of you...stay safe...have fun.....toss one in my honor occasionally......

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Old 05-19-2012, 04:45 AM   #16
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Steve,
I'm so sorry to hear about your decision, but fully understand it, and would do the same thing myself in your shoes. God knows some of the stories I've read, such as your own, about misfortune on the water scares me and makes me hyper vigilant. I can only humbly thank you for the wisdom you've imparted to me and others here, and beg you to stay involved. You can rest assured you are appreciated. Maybe someday the "tide will turn" and you'll be back on the water, or maybe you'll find another source of pleasure. I wish you only and all the best.

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Old 05-19-2012, 12:35 PM   #17
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youre wife is youre mate, the boat "although precious" only a thing.
did the same with my car hobby (which my wife didn't like) and found boating.
there will allways be something else
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who would you like to talk to when youre old
someone who had the same labour and hobby, lived in the same house never visited other country's or someone who overcame a lot of trouble, changed his life a few times and seen a lot of the world
i would know the answer.
have a nice life
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Old 05-19-2012, 05:46 PM   #18
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Steve,
It has been a pleasure getting to know you. Your knowledge and love for boating is second to none. That being said, I would cut my left arm off for my wife if I needed to, to make her happy (I'm sure that is what this feels like to you right now). The love, companionship and friendship of a good woman is second to none and you truly do not take that for granted. You will be sorely missed, as MOC will not be the same without you. I can understand the need to distance yourself from boat related things, however I hope you will at least drop by the dockwalk from time to time and continue to impart your wisdom and humor on us.

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Old 05-20-2012, 01:39 AM   #19
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Country me, shrew, Jonnathan...and everyone else here on the MOC....I am truly touched with your comments and support.....I have some good news and some bad news....
first the good news....I'm staying .....I know this all sounds like a lot of drama going on but today I got up early...grabbed the wife and we ran for breakfast and an errand...then went to the boat to start taking our junk out of her...(the boat)...well...marsha thought I was bluffing and half way thru loading the truck up with out junk...she broke down and ( I think she thought I was bluffing) started crying saying I didn't even concider what she wanted........but when I told her that she means more to me than a boat...although I would miss the boat and boating....she's more important to me....we talked for about an hr and she promised to try and learn to drive the boat and take a more active roll in the boat ...after arguing about the boat lately for a whole week..I was tired of it all and I felt to regain peace and harmony ..it was the best thing to do..concidering...

now for the bad news......I am totally sorry for creating all this drama when I was seriously taking all the steps to get out of boating......for that I'm sorry for creating such a furor but I really thought the wife would be tickled silly about me selling the boat.......it was the last thing on my mind to do here....I enjoy this place as you guys know.....I enjoy all the comradery we experience without the drama.......as there are with other sites....

for all of you that has spoken out on my behalf and understanding..I am grateful for your comments and friendship...

thanks......

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Old 05-20-2012, 04:27 AM   #20
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Steve, I kind of knew this day would come. You have made the right decision. The truth is, you are smart enough to know that is what you need to do. Most of us would be stubborn, keep it and miss out on what truly matters. Maybe you can take up flying? Most of the time, I feel much more safe in the ac than I do in the boat!! I've never been worried about hitting an unseen rock anyway!! Keep in touch with us, I know we all look forward to hearing about the next chapter. While our association has been pretty brief, you have been a trusted voice for me.

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